Bridging The Gap: The Second Look
Your ability to correctly judge people and situations should be exercised with caution and care.
I have missed the mark and caused damage by making the wrong decisions from a first look assessment of someone or a situation. I could also say that when I looked the second time, it changed my first look’s position and caused me and others to win individually and collectively.
What about you? Consider the two assessments.
The First Look Assessment. Seeing and settling for a “No” without evidence.
The first look can crush a potential relationship or cancel out an opportunity if it is judged incorrectly. Some people maybe super connectable but look rough and talk harsh. They may come across as unapproachable. For them, the opposite is true. They are connectable and friendly with a rough and harsh outward disposition. They are different but no less than their neighbor and or teammates.
The same applies to activities. Your first look may be at the beginning of the process where things are unsettled and seem to be out of order with chaos leading the way. If you judge this incorrectly and add or takeaway a step, you may damage the activity or process. Ultimately instability will creep in, and inconsistencies will be born throughout the flow. Not Good…
By no means am I calling your First Look wrong because it could be correct. I am, however, saying that it should be checked to ensure what you learn supports what you see. If it does, then keep moving with your decision. If it does not, then you may have damaged healthy relationships, hurt quality, and so much more-Just by a first look.
The Second Look Assessment. Seeing a “Yes” that is dressed in a “No”.
The second look is action. It validates or invalidates the first look, and empowers you to do the following:
· Check your bias
· Go and see the activity for yourself
· Open your understanding. The “No” maybe a temporary bad spot that showed up on the path and will go away shortly as the process continues to the “Yes”
As you grow and mature, your First and Second Look Assessments will grow and mature. Your responses to life situations will position and empower you to build and teardown…strategically.
You have the baton in your hand to take the Second Look. Now run your race to discover value in people and situations that did not present itself at the glance of your First Look.
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